Good Morning Friends,
Recently this topic has come up while talking with other light workers, and this was recently discussed at a Reiki share I attended, prompting me to write this post today.
I should re-phrase “protecting” yourself as an empath. Being an empath is a blessing, a gift- although it does not always feel like it. So for the times that you feel you need to protect yourself, it’s likely too late as you’ve already picked up and absorbed some negative energy/emotions. Below we will go over the top five traits of an Empath, and how to better ground yourself to the sensitivity that you experience.
First Off- What is an Empath? Being an empath is when you are affected by other people’s energies, and you have an innate ability to intuitively feel and perceive others. Your life is unconsciously influenced by others desires, wishes, thoughts and moods. Being an empath is MUCH more than being highly sensitive and it is not just limited to emotions. Empaths can perceive physical sensitivities and spiritual urges, as well as just knowing the motivations and intentions of others.
You are an Empath or you are not. There is no in between.
If you feel you are an Empath, you have likely experienced several, if not all of these traits below (If you would like a more comprehensive list, scroll back several pages of posts where I write about this topic in more detail).
1). Knowing- empaths just know stuff, without being told. There is no other way to say it. The psychic term for this is called claircognizance. There is no logic to this phenomenon, and it goes beyond words, beyond intuition or gut feelings, even though that is how some would describe it. The more attuned you are, the stronger this gift becomes. Meditation truly enhances this ability.
2). Being in public places can be overwhelming- places like shopping malls, supermarkets or stadiums where there are lots of people can fill the empath with turbulently vexed emotions that are coming from others. For years I could not walk into the mall without having a panic attack. I didn’t realize at that time that I was picking up on all of the frequencies of others, as well as my own perceptions. Now that I am more conscious, I am able to recognize and deal with it- or I simply don’t go to certain places if I can avoid it.
In fact, just last week I had to hightail it out of Whole Foods, leaving a full shopping cart behind! There was a funky energy in there, and I couldn’t breathe. Once I got to my car, I was fine. As an evolving empath, you will be able to gage when something is really wrong with you physically, or when you are reacting to energy outside of yourself.
3). Feeling others emotions and taking them on as your own-this is a huge one for empaths, and very difficult. A true empath will get hit with emotions out of the blue and can be picking them up from someone across the room, or from someone that is very far away physically. The more attuned empath will feel when someone is thinking positively or negatively of them, even from a great distance.
4). You know when someone is not being honest- this one is very frustrating. If a friend or loved one is not telling you the truth, or worse yet, downright lying to you, you know it (although many empaths try not to focus on this because knowing a loved one is lying can be painful). This goes beyond paranoia or suspicion, you just know. Or if someone is saying one thing but feeling/thinking another, you know.
5). Needing to retreat and recharge after spending time with groups of people OR feeling super drained after spending time with certain people- as an empath, being around groups for a long time can actually be soul sucking! After a large party that has lasted several hours, I can’t talk to anyone for a whole day! Consequently, as empaths you will attract people that need your help, therefore, they can suck your energy without trying to. You may feel sick, tired , drained , and not know why after dealing with certain people. You are simply picking up their SH&* and you need to cleanse and recharge.
Now that I have given you what I feel are the five top traits of a true empath, let’s discuss some quick and easy methods to stay grounded and true throughout it all. As I said earlier, being an empath is a gift, and the world needs us. Shutting out this ability will only cause internal turmoil for you, so lets get grounded!
*Every morning when you wake up, thank whomever you pray, wish or speak to, thank them for giving you another day. Out loud or silently doesn’t matter, but be grateful. Know that whatever gets thrown your way- you can and will deal with it.
*Try and meditate for ten minutes a day. Ten minutes of eyes closed, peaceful music, empty mind – makes a world of difference! Make it a habit.
*Nature-get outside! It’s been proven time and time again that being outside , particularly in green, natural spaces, really does have a positive affect on our mental health. So go for a hike, a bike ride, a walk in the woods, whatever you prefer, but is truly is so cleansing- we are meant to breath fresh air, NOT be locked indoors all day! Being near the water is also amazingly healing for empaths.
*Try and keep your diet clean, and limit alcohol. Really, this one is huge if you are particularly sensitive. You want to be as clear headed as possible, and what you put into your body will help or hinder that feeling.
*Go barefoot as much as possible. When you are barefoot, especially in the grass, you are truly connecting to the earth- therefore you are grounding yourself naturally. It might be because I’m a Taurus (Earth Sign) but I would go barefoot all the time if I could!
*Work with metaphysical stones- stones can be an empaths best friend! To keep yourself from absorbing the negative emotions or intentions of others, Black Tourmaline is (in my opinion) the MAC DADDY of all I ALWAYS have a small piece of black tourmaline on me. Clear Quartz is another good one to help keep you pure. Selenite connects you to the angelic realm, and Rose Quartz will aid in unconditional love of oneself, and others.
*If you wish to enhance your empathic abilities, Lapis Lazuli (another favorite of mine) and Amethyst are fantastic stones. As an empath, you may also have a hard time quieting your mind at night, and Amethyst is also great for insomnia. Simply put a small piece of Amethyst beneath your pillow for more restful sleep.
*If you are an energy healer, and work on/with others often , sea salt baths are a MUST. So is washing your hair after working with/on a lot of people. The hair absorbs more energy than you realize! Anytime I work a large event, the second I get in no matter how exhausted, it’s time for a sea salt bath.
*Sage Yourself Daily. Super important for empaths, and White Sage is best. I sage myself, my car, my living space, and the people I work with-daily! It truly does help to cleanse yourself and the energy, and you will immediately feel lighter once having done it.
(If you would like to read more on Sage, which the practice is called “smudging”, again go back several pages of posts and you will find tips)
*Lastly- one of my favorites and it sounds so simple, but really, it does help. Before I walk out my door for the day, I stop and envision a white cloak , I say in my head a little protection blurb, and I envision the cloak surrounding me in white light. Then I begin my day.
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Love & Light,